We can’t choose everything we experience, but we do choose what inspires us.

To me, sharing what has shaped or resonated with me in life tells a deeper story about me than a resume or ‘about me’ blurb. :)

Here’s a small list of things I’ve read, watched, or experienced that have inspired me:

Joan Didion’s 1961 essay “On Self Respect”

The Danger of a Single Story’ by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

The work of Gloria Anzaldúa 

This photo of my parents in 1985. And this one

My entrepreneurial stint as co-founder of a gelato company called Bluenoon, which you can read about here, here, here, and here.

Urdu, my mother tongue

Urdu words like kashish, nazaaqat, saahns and ahista, which sound phonetically like what they mean

This scene from ‘Under the Skin’

Hiba’ trees of Japan

Joan and Don chat at a bar

These profiles, of Toni Morrison and Kendrick Lamar, written by Rachel Kaadzi Ghansah

Honestly, everything written by Rachel Kaadzi Ghansah

My cat, Hayaa

Michaela Coel’s McTaggert lecture

Peter Levine’s work on somatic experiencing and healing trauma 

Tasbeeh herwees on her name

Fireweed

This interview between Brene Brown and Oprah Winfrey

The Loneliest Stars in the Milky Way’ by Marina Koren

Paro losing Devdas

Taylor Swift and Bon Iver, “Exile.” Actually, the whole album

Oatmilk draft lattes from La Colombe

The Other Side of Silence,’ by Urvashi Butalia

Since Living Alone’ by Durga Chew-Bose 

This book of poems, by Warsan Shire

Adele gushing about Beyonce in her Grammys speech

This conversation between Sandra Oh and Kerry Washington

Pink sunsets

Two Words” by Isabel Allende, translated to English

Precarious Life” by Judith Butler

The script of ‘Little Miss Sunshine’

This interview with Nick Hornby, about his screenplay for ‘An Education’

‘Little Women,’ which I reread every year

This pie.

Eloquent Rage,’ by my favorite professor, Dr. Brittney Cooper

AOC on gendered harassment in the halls of Congress

This interview with Angela Davis 

Audre Lorde— everything she’s written

Olivia de Havilland’s performance in Dark Mirror

Beyonce singing ‘Die for You’ 

‘No One Belongs Here More Than You’ by Miranda July

The Laugh of the Medusa,’ by Helene Cixous 

This lipstick 

Saoirse Ronan in Lady Bird 

Peggy quitting on Don, Mad Men.

‘The Hours’

Keira Knightley’s gown from ‘Atonement’

Mohsin Hamid’s ‘How to get Filthy Rich in Rising Asia’

We sinful women’ by Kishwar Naheed

Feminism without borders’ by Chandra Mohanty

‘Love in The Time of Cholera’ by Gabriel Garcia Marquez

‘The Alchemist’ by Paolo Coelho

Elena Ferrante’s Neapolitan quartet